I often roll my eyes when I read newsletters that begin with profound statements like "well, hasn't time flown, we're already at the end of term..."
But as I sat at my desk I thought "well, hasn't time flown, here we are at the end of term..."
The best of intentions like exercise, healthy living and, um, more frequent blog updates can often become swept up in the busyness that is a new year.
But there's no point feeling negative about or dwelling upon a resolution or plan that did not make it off the ground. You have choices...
- You can give up on it, remain stagnant and do nothing differently.
- You can realise that the idea didn't suit your world at that particular time and adjust your idea to fit your life, your thought space and your current situation.
- You can refocus and make the decision to try again.
Something that I believe is a strong factor in not creating the lives we would like is the attitude of all or nothing.
If you vow in the new year to only eat whole and healthy foods, the first time that you find yourself enjoying a nice dessert after a meal you begin to engage in destructive self-talk: "well, you failed that, no point trying now. you'll never lose weight"
Perhaps you told yourself that you were going without alcohol for a whole year...and allowed one lapse to be the
I have set myself goals this year. Actually I do that a lot at the start of most years. But this time I'm realising that the all or nothing approach to life has been a strong factor in not working through challenges.
I would like to become fitter and shed some kilos. So far this year I have deliberately walked over 60km! I have also participated in 7 exercise classes!
Sure, I've had days when I didn't do anything. I've eaten some foods that I probably didn't need. But every small step in the right direction is just that. I love the feeling of being able to pat myself on the back for a positive choice.
Being organised is another goal that I hold for this year. I feel so happy with the steps that I've made with this. Ok, so many times my (super pretty and well decorated) diary has remained on the desk at home. Sure, I've double booked myself by saying "yes" when I should have said "let me check my diary" BUT that's just the way it is. Better to move on than give up!
As a parent I believe that one of the most important things that I can show my son is my honest self. I want him to see that sometimes I make mistakes. Sometimes the choices that I make aren't always the most effective. But I can also show him that goals that are worth setting are worth working towards. Making positive choices in lifestyle and mindset are important in living the life we want. Being resilient in the face of challenge or adversity results in personal growth and a sense of fulfillment.
I look forward to sharing the year with you and hope that you are giving yourself the pats on the back that you deserve. You are your own biggest critic...but also your own biggest supporter.